A helpful book to help you say goodbye
I found something I would like to share with you all. Because God knows, we all have experienced this in one way or another. Losing a pet is more than ‘just losing a pet’ and maybe this will help somebody going through this right now. This was from an email sent to me by Hay House about Louise Hay’s book ‘You Can Heal Your Heart’. This excerpt hits the nail on the head and helped to heal some of my wounds that are over 5 years old from my last fur baby.
“Grief is a natural reflection of life and exists in any relationship where we have feelings and attachments. We all mourn for those we loved, for those we disliked, and even for those we hated. We don’t grieve when there is no attachment. In that context, it seems silly to think that we wouldn’t grieve for the animals in our life that we are indeed very much attached to.”
Our pets share our living spaces—and in many cases, our beds—and are truly members of the family. Despite this, people who are grieving over an animal that died will often find that they must be very discreet about their feelings and with whom they share them. They instinctively know that they’re dealing with a form of disenfranchised grief—a type of grief that other people might deem as “less than.” Some have shared their heartbreak only to be met with: “Well, it’s not like it was a person. It was just an animal,” and “Just go get yourself another pet.”
The reality is that grief from pet loss is not as easily fixed as some would have us believe.
It’s hard to live in grief that’s judged as unworthy. Grief is about love, and our animal companions often show us some of the most unconditional love we could ever experience. How often, despite our best efforts, do we absorb some of society’s judgments and think, I shouldn’t be grieving this much? Yet when we let these thoughts in, we betray our genuine feelings.
To complicate our grief even more around pet loss, we’re often clearer on treating them humanely. When they’re in pain at the end of their lives, despite our wanting them to stay around, we will often choose to euthanize them to make sure that they die in a respectful, dignified manner, surrounded by love. But sometimes it makes the loss a little harder when we wonder if we did the right thing at the right time.
We all feel very strongly about our animals. Many of us resonate with humorist Will Rogers’s statement:
“If there are no dogs in heaven, then when I die, I want to go where they went.”
Many believe that when we die, we will reunite with all of the people and pets we loved that passed on before us. We embrace the concept that death is arriving into fullness rather than emptiness. In other words, when any of us leaves the earthly plane, it will be “standing room only” because we will once again be surrounded by all of our loved ones whom we’ve been missing so much.
Let’s imagine that scene with our pets greeting us as well. To see their faces again, their tails wagging. Hearing their barks, their meows, their chirps, their whinnies and grunts, and being around all of their other loving attributes. What a tender arrival we will have when we cross over.
Here is a helpful affirmation given by the glorious Louise Hay herself:
“I embrace all the gifts my pet has left me.
I am thankful for all the experiences we shared.
My sweet pet will always be surrounded by my love.”
With a perfect blend of Louise’s affirmations and teachings on the power of your thoughts and David’s many years of working with those in grief, “You Can Heal Your Heart” will inspire an extraordinary new way of thinking, bringing profound love and joy into your life. You will not only learn how to harness the power of your grief to help you grow and find peace, but you will also discover that, yes, you can heal your heart.